NEW YORK — And what more is there to say about the McGreevey, Matos McGreevey mess? Should she have known better? Should he have known himself better? Maybe, but there is one lesson we can all take away from their sordid affair. And it’s a lesson about how not to get a divorce.

So, some dos and don’ts when you say “I do”: Do think about whether you should get married at all. Do communicate with your partner about who you are before you do. Do think about whether to have children and, if you do, do keep their best interests at heart. Don’t lie about who you are. Don’t lie to yourself about who your partner is. And if you do make a mistake or somehow fall out of love with your spouse, do the right thing by her and the children you chose to have.

That means, if you do say “I do,” then do remember your promises. And keep them. And at the very least don’t humiliate your spouse with a public display of your irresistible impulses. Most of all, don’t work through your divorce demons in court. It’s undignified. And it simply doesn’t work. That’s the Last Word.

–Jami Floyd, In Session anchor